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Saturday, August 2, 2008

RAD in action!

tomorrow jacky leaves for camp. he has known all week that the room must be cleaned first. he refuses. i have told him repeatedly that the truck will not leave the driveway until the room is clean. i am not backing down. i do not care if it is a power struggle. the room is disgusting and smells. my room is across from his and i do not like the smell emmitting from his doorway(urine). i will not cean it. my husband helped him clean it 2 weeks ago for 2 solid hours during the home run derby and missed the entire derby. you cannot tell that he did that. we are done. he wants to go shopping for sandals today. i told him that when the room is clean, we will go. if the room is not clean in time to shop for shoes before stores close, so be it. as much as i want him to have fun at camp, i do not wish to smell his room while he is away. everyone talks about how miserable/sad RAD kids are. what about the innocent parents who adopt them? nobody ever really talks about what WE go through. i am tired of urine taking over MY life. so there.

5 comments:

Justju said...

Ick. I can't imagine, Ali. I listen to all your struggles with Jackson and my heart really goes out to you all and what you go through. I know you love him dearly, but it must still be difficult to like him at times. {{hugs}}

Shea said...

I'm having the exact issue with my daughter, minus the urine. I pulled the trash can to the kitchen and threw all her belongings away including clothes last week. I am refusing to buy school clothes unless she cleans. I mean it. If the room does not get clean she will go to school this year in the same stuff. I've had it. I begged, cried, threatened, nothing works! I feel you pain.

Simply Moms said...

Follow thorugh with the consequences....even if it causes more upsetment.

Try hard....and I know it is hard/next to impossible...to offer hugs...kissess...cuddles...eye contact....even though you'd rather not. Fake it. The feelings might follow.

T and T Livesay said...

Ugh. You poor woman. I do not know that I would ever do very well with RAD. I think there is a reason God gave me babies and gave you Jackson.

You rock sister.

Unspeakable Joy said...

oh my word, i've felt that exact same way. life controlled by pee! glad i found your blog. (the pee did get better here, well mostly)...
joy