ok.. so.. HYPOTHETICALLY..................................................
your 18 year old son... we will call him Ding Dong to protect his identity for now, is ALLEGEDLY issued a speeding ticket in your SUV in December of 2008.
you are not told of this situation. your other children, several of them leaps and bounds ahead of your allegedly GUILTY son in the maturity department, also choose to keep this information from you(we'll get to them later!)
son, in his infinite wisdom, who knows he's leaving the state for an extended period of time...and knows when he's leaving -CHOOSES not to pay alleged said ticket.
fast forward 8 weeks or so:
a registered letter arrives at your door step. Mailman Bob allows you to sign, since your son is away(even though hes over 18) and snickers and chuckles to the point of spit spray as he hands you the pen. you allegedly belt him in the back of his noggin with the screen door as he exits.(see if that dink gets any of my home made Valentine chocolates next year!)
letter is from local district court and states that if a $360.00 check is not mailed before March 17th, an arrest warrant will be issued for Ding Dong and his drivers license will be revoked with warning.
the kid allegedly has money in his account, which you have online access to.
HYPOTHETICALLY, if this situation was presented to you, would you choose to:
A.) do NOTHING. let him dig his own social suicide grave. he doesnt have a vehicle anyway, and you sure arent dumb enough to let him go 65 in a 30 with YOUR truck again! he made his choice. he did NOTHING. you will do NOTHING. sink or swim, smart ass!
B.) jump on the computer, quickly transfer the funds needed to your account, write a check, find a stamp and envelope and mail the check to the correct address. The United States Army frowns upon arrest warrants! Ding Dong needs a driver's license to get a job, keep a job and have a life outside your dark basement. he also needs to find housing. ALLEGEDLY of course!
C.) following a much heated -yet calm and collected- discussion, you come to a compromise with your "problem solver" (coddling, hand holding, bail- out professional WIMP) of a spouse and agree to mail the letter to Ding Dong on base and let him take care of things himself, with a cashier's check, if & when he so chooses. think of it as a "hand up" instead of a "hand out".
D.) "submit" to your spouse and tell him "Whatever you think is best, Darling." make sure you smile when you say it. then go retrieve his slippers and pipe. make him a nice dinner. wear something sexy.
i'm excited to hear your input, i really am. answer in the comments!